Listen with your eyes…

Posted: February 2, 2011 in Ministry

Listening…

This seems to be an quality that many people don’t have in todays fast-paced, hurry-hurry world.

BUT, true, sincere listening is vital in communication…both to understand what the other person is saying and to express to the person that you are trying to communicate with that they are of value and you care about what they are sharing with you.

Take a look and see this brief article by Pastor Rick Warren…

Listen with your eyes

By Rick Warren

“Looking people in the eye says, “You have my undivided attention. You are valued. You are significant.” ”

Rick Warren


Good pastors know how to listen. It’s an indispensable part of God’s call on our lives. The truth is, you can’t lead until you listen.

And most of the listening you need to do isn’t with your ears. It’s with your eyes.

About 80 percent of all communication is non-verbal. If you’re going to master communication, you better learn to understand the verbal clues people are giving you. To do this, you’ve got to keep your eyes open and on whoever you’re talking to.

Jesus did this. It was an important way he showed people he cared. When Jesus met the rich, young ruler (Mark 10), the Bible says, “Jesus looked at him and loved him.”

If you love people, you’ll look at them. Looking people in the eye says, “You have my undivided attention. You are valued. You are significant. You are worth listening to and I’m going to prove it by looking you in the eye.”

Think about how important this could be to someone you’re visiting at the hospital. Think of how important this could be to the leader you’re mentoring. You paying attention this weekend could help you encourage someone who has been beat up all week. Listening will let those people know how valuable they are to you and that they are a vital part of the congregation.

As pastors, we’ve got a lot on our plates. No doubt about that. It’s easy to have something or someone else on our mind while we’re talking with someone.

But, as a pastor, you’re in the people business. If you can’t listen attentively to those you lead, it isn’t likely they’ll follow you.

You can’t fake listening. But people know when you’re a million miles away.

In today’s world there are many, many people who don’t feel loved and cared for by anyone. They long for the attention of someone – anyone. You’ll never know who they are at first glance. In times like these our ears – and our eyes — are our greatest ministry tools.

How are you doing on your listening skills?

Good question…how are you doing?  How has this got you thinking?  Take a moment and let me know what you are thinking about this in the comment section below…

 

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